Ever problem starts small, with acquisitions surrendered, one successive approximation after another, until the solution seems impossibly distant. But solutions also surrender to success and it might take a while to unknot the generational impediments to healthy relationships once again.
It's none of my business what others think of me.
Seeing each other as we REALLY are is key. We can regain our innocence, and help others to do the same. Hurting people hurt people, I've heard it said, but I'm not willing to give that much room for play. Healed people 'heal people' is what I would rather focus on. Healed people were once hurting and needed healing. Someone had to touch their hearts for that to happen. Let's touch each other's hearts by running a complete virus scan and then purging the computer of the infected files. So what if we lose "programs" in the meanwhile? There's not a "price to pay" large enough to justify injuring people's hearts.