A universal truth. A person is as happy as they make up their minds to be. I forgave my abuser and it freed me. Holding myself hostage in anger was keeping me sick. He was not even paying rent to be in my mind, so I evicted him (even if he paid rent, I'm no prostitute anymore, so nursing the pain is not an option). Taking our power back and hanging up the blamethrower ain't always easy, but it's worth it.