"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead." Bertrand Russell
Live and Learn.
Love is never wrong. But what we do for love is sometimes crazy. Me, I would rather love than WORRY about being duped, fooled, or otherwise, find myself in a WHAT/IF quandary, wondering WTF WERE YOU THINKING? In other words, live, and then figure it out later.
QUOTE CITY: Soren Kierkegaard had a few ideas that might be of service here: “Life can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forwards. Once you label me you negate me. Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced. Prayer does not change God, but it changes him who prays. People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for the freedom of thought which they seldom use. Face the facts of being what you are, for that, is what changes what you are.” Lastly, Sartre said, “We are condemned to be free.”
Intellectuals live in their minds, overthinking everything, and contaminate any chance love might have of completely enveloping their experience. The mind is to serve the heart, for love is the central commandment of all scripture. "Knowledge is a polite word for dead but not buried imagination.” ee cummings, and Satan asked us to eat from the tree of KNOWLEDGE of good and evil (judgment).
But back to this world. I used to have a serious problem. I could walk into a room of 500 women and fall in love with the sickest one in the room. THAT one is exciting, smart, sexy, artistic, poetic, and I would feel drawn like a moth to a light. After several “bad” experiences, someone told me my "Picker" was broken (you can pick 'em, Timothy). But our spirit knows what we need intuitively, even if logically it seems totally stupid and bound for failure. We empathically connect to the Messengers we need in life. In God’s Economy, nothing is wasted.
I would rather crash and burn in Innocent Ecstasy than end up living a life in fear, which is a living death, really.
If you love someone, you will not hurt them, at least not on purpose. If you love yourself, you will not place yourself in harm's way, either. Life is all about love or it's nothing real at all because the only thing REAL is LOVE.
So, listen to your heart. Trust it and she/he will lead you well. Doubt it and you'll live in a semi-dark corner spelling checking carbon copies, a life where we never make mistakes and learn from them.
As long as we are pure of heart, we'll be free of the thinking hell that so many are self-contaminated by. CS Lewis said, "The door to hell is only opened from the inside."
Show me your friends and I'll show you your future. I used to go to romance movies ALONE, just me and my popcorn. Couples would come in and occasionally a woman would look at me quizzically, wondering what a man was doing there alone, I guess. I did it to enjoy love alone as much as I did when I was in a relationship. Embrace each moment sweetly, even the painful ones, for they will purify your heart if you let it.
So live. Pray. Seek wisdom. Dance. Quit walking with the enemy. Forgive yourself and everyone else, too.
"A ton of head ain't worth an ounce of heart". Earnie Larsen